Words that capture your loved one

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Nobody wants to think about writing an obituary for a loved one, especially in the midst of grief. O’Connell Family Funeral Homes seeks to help our clients celebrate their loved ones in a way that assists with healing and honors their loved one’s precious life.


Here are some of our best tips for easing this process:



1. Start early. It may seem strange, but it’s wise to have a conversation with your loved ones about the events that shaped their life before they pass. Ask about accomplishments they’d like highlighted or favorite family memories. Need help? We have the perfect suggestion. It is called “Have The Talk Of A Lifetime,” a deck of conversation starter cards. Learning about memorable events, people, places, values and lessons they have learned can help bring you closer to the people you care about.

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Schedule your pre-arranging appointment today & we’ll give you The Talk Of A Lifetime deck. 

2. Speak from the heart. It’s tempting to focus on poeticism or be strictly professional. However, your loved ones and fellow grievers want to hear from you in this moment. Don’t be afraid to work in your unique voice.


3. Acknowledge family members. Classic obituaries tend to mention family members and loved ones that the deceased left behind. This crucial tradition helps readers make connections to people they may know, reminding them to serve as a support system and friendly face throughout the grieving process.


For additional information or to start pre-arranging, contact O’Connell Funeral Homes today.

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