How Preplanning Your Funeral Can Benefit You and Your Family

An elderly couple is sitting on a park bench with their arms around each other.

In this episode hosted by Pete Waggoner, Mike O’Connell and Amber Miller discuss the process of preplanning one’s funeral and its multiple benefits. They go in-depth about the different aspects of funeral preplanning, from the finances to how the actual meetings are done with family members. They also talk about how death and grief can significantly impact those left behind, and how this process can help alleviate some of the burden. This episode provides listeners with a comprehensive look at funeral prearranging, and is an excellent resource for anyone considering this option.


Takeaways:

  1. Preplanning is a great way to lighten the load for your loved ones after you’re gone.
  2. Grief and death can bring significant changes and challenges to families.
  3. While having conversations about death can be difficult, talking about your wishes ahead of time can make things much easier for everyone involved.


In this episode:

[2:23] Pete opens the discussion by asking why people prearrange their funerals. Mike provides different reasons such as being forced to do so due to a terminal illness, wanting to have more control over their own funeral, or simply having the desire to relieve the burden from their loved ones.

[6:25] The three talk about the significant changes death can bring to a family and the challenges that usually arise. They also begin to discuss the financial aspects of prearranging and how it can lessen the burden on those left behind.

[11:35] Amber shares how funeral trust can be a great gift, both for oneself and their loved ones. They also talk about the two different ways to set up an irrevocable funeral policy.

[14:11] Pete asks about how families receive the information when it comes to funeral prearranging and how much detail is usually given. Mike and Amber talk about how the process and benefits are explained to the family, as well as how the meeting is set up and conducted.

[22:37] Amber and Mike discuss the different meeting setups they do with people who are willing to prearrange their funerals. They share how they sometimes visit homes and care facilities to make the process as convenient as possible for those who need their services.


Resources:

  1. O’Connell Funeral Homes
  2. Amber Miller
  3. Read Show Transcript


Quotes:

  1. “When grief starts getting put into the equation, that can change things in an instant.” – Amber Miller on how family dynamics can change after someone’s death
  2. “Huge. You’re taking away the subjectivity of kids going against each other…you’re just setting them up to heal.” – Mike O’Connell on the benefits of preplanning and prefunding to families.
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